Marked or Unmarked that is the question?
In Deborah Tanner's essay "There Is No Unmarked Woman" she feels as if the women are unmarked because they tend not to worry about the eyelashes or makeup.
When I read this essay I had to agree with Tanner because she states that "all married women's surnames are marked" which means that after a woman is married her named changes to a marked surname.
I also had to agree with her when she stated that a woman "has her own name", and that a "married woman who wants to have her cake and eat it too may use her surname plus his". I agreed with her beacause I feel that she is able to have most of the things she wants while maintaining her name.
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I agree with you Latasha, I think that in the essay everything she said was completely true. My friends mother decided when she got married that she was not going to take her husbands last name because she was in the military and she wanted to keep her last name the same. Many people turn their noses up at the fact that she did that. I dont see any problem with her doing that it is not a law that you have to take the last name of your husband. So I agree with everything that you stated in your blog.
Well Latasha D, I agree with you to a certain point. I belive that a woman has a choice of being unmarked. Everyone has a choice of being unmarked. Its about being who they want to be.
I agree with you some what Latasha D. I think men want their wife to take their last name because it makes them feel that their wife belongs with them. I know it sounds silly but if it was not truth then men would not care what last name their wife had.
I think it is alright for a married woman to keep her last name. I think by a woman changing her last name it gives both the man and woman a sense of togetherness in a marriage.
I totally agree with you Joseph. Each woman does have a choice to be unmarked or marked. I feel that the women should try to be themselves
I think every woman is marked-they all have distinct characteristics about them. Not only does the last name of a woman make them distinct but also the hairstyle, clothing, and even if they are referred to as "Miss", "Mrs", or "Ms". Men only have one choice- "Mr".
I believe that women are marked but I do like traditions. I think that the woman should take the mans name. Women are marked in many other ways, more serious ways than changing their last name. For example; the pressure to look and act a certain way.
I disagree. Changing women’s surnames has been a tradition for hundreds of years. Why change the tradition now? By changing surnames suggests that two people are now one. That is what marriage is about, sharing and becoming one.
I agree with you Will. I think that women should take the man last name because that's really why their getting married. When you get married you're making a commitment to your spouse meaning that the two of you has now become one.
lakisha s said...
There is truth to what Latasha was saying about the essay. Clearly the essay expresses the truth about women being marked. There's always some kind of judgment towards women, therefore, there are no unmarked women in the world. It goes along with the stereotyping of women because of a certain style or dress. I completely agree with statements made about the essay.
I agree with Aaron in a sense. I think the woman should take the last name of the man, but if she doesn't it's no big deal either.
Nathalie R...
I agree with you when you say that a women should not be marked. My sister married recently and she decided to keep her last name, and add her husbands' name to her name. She did this because she thought if she gave up her last name up she was losing her identity.Even though she said it made her husband feel less of a man,she couldn't live with not carrying our daddy's last name, because we all are daddy's little girls.
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