Women Are So Emotional
In Eden's essay I agree that women are so emotional when it comes to spending time with them, especially in the sack, Eden says, "the nature of sex awakens deep emotion within us". I mean why can't women just think about sex like some men do, just get yours and don't worry about what the other person is thinks about it.
I still understand where she's coming from because when that right man puts it on you, I really don't think it's anything women can do but fall in love. Not unless they were already looking for somebody to love them.
It can't all be put on the men because sometimes women don't know how to keep a man and the only thing bonding them together is sex, which is kinda wrong but it would fall under the category of casual sex because it's no feelings involve.
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I understand, Charles, that yes a man can have a powerful effect on a woman. But don't call us emotional. When God created us (women), he "wired" us completely different than men were. We were created to want that deeper feeling and to create a bond between that significant other. We are not "capable", just as Eden says, to have casual sex with a guy. I don't believe it's fair of you to call us "emotional". That's most definitly not a fair assumption or stereotype
I think a woman all her life from childhood has the dream of finding her "prince Charming". Sex is meant to be between the person you love, so of course were going to be a little "emotional". Men need to understand that as soon as you have sex with a woman she's going to expect a bit more to the relationship. It is stupid for some woman to just give into men's woeing but if the guy isn't into commitment then go find a girl whose just looking for a one night stand also. I think to call woman emotional is too strong of a word. Its almost offensive. We have a deeper thought process, yes. We have big hearts, were caring. CAlling a woman emotional is like calling a man a pig.
I agree with Rebekah and Caylenne.
Physically, a woman's brain is wired differently than a man's. Yea, we tend to be more emotional about some things, but there are a lot of reasons for that.
a) We're wired differently.
b) We're raised with double standards. It's accepted for men to sleep around and be detached and its not for women. Women can cry and be emotional, men can't. Those are stereotypes that are still being fought today
c) The physical brain chemistry of the person. Individuals vary.
Also it's not always about love. Anyone can be emotionally attached to someone/thing without being in love with it. Emotional attachment depends very strongly on the people involved and the whole situation.
I think there's too much generalization going on in the main post. Every case has the potential to be different with its own reasons for the woman being "emotional".
I agree with Rebekah,Caylenne, and Wendy because it is not fair to call all women emotional. I feel that most women are not able to be with a guy just for sex.
Most women began to feel emotional because of certain situations that they have been though to feel emotional.
Okay Charles, when you say there’s no more feelings involved with sex it then just turn into casual sex. Why not just be a man and step up and say that you’re not feeling us any more and you don’t want to be with us anymore. I mean you say we are “so emotional” if you know this why would you continue to play with our emotions? Also in Eden article at no point is she putting all the blame of casual sex just on men, she is just expressing how she as a woman feels after having casual sex. I also want to ask a question, what do you mean the right man puts it on you? We are all grown now a lot of MEN are looking for wives now not just somebody they can just say they put it on. A relationship is also between two people so it is not just the woman who can’t keep the man maybe its you and the way you act is the reason why she won’t keep you happy and stratified.
I also understand where you are coming from but I totally agree with Rebekah about how men might think they have a powerful effect on us but somtimes that is not true. we females have a powerful effect on men and I am not talkig sexually at this momment.
women are emotional I do agree to a certain point. their are many reasons why women are so emotional like for one maybe it's something a man has done to make that emotional side of a women come out. Like for me yes I am emotional but I have issues that cause me to become emotional.The clue to what I meant was "we become" emotional it is not like we are already emotional it's what put use in that state of mind.
I disagree with you when you said"It can't all be put on the men because women don't know how to keep a man and the only thing bonding them together is sex".thats tipical for a man to say. we females can only try to make the relationship work. Females know how to keep a man it's just a man don't know how to keep a woman. When men don't do their part they blam females for their wrongs.If men stop being boys and become men. Then they would not have problem about females not keeping a man.
I understand where you are coming from Charles. Women can not think of sex like men because if they have sex with more then a few men they are categorized as a whore. This society has made women emotional when it comes to relationships.
I totally agree with will. When he says that if women sleep around like some men the women are considered sluts but if men do the same their not really considered anything at all. There are many stereotypes like wendy said about how men are not suppose to cry and women are more emotional. Both sexes can be both equally emotional when it comes to sex and I believe it has alot to do with a persons' up bringing. That way if parents teach their kids to do the right things and be careful it just might also lower alot of the other problems in our nation as well.
I strongly agree with Charles on how females are emotional. Males and females are different, and females become attached easily. When you talk with them for a while they feel like they can do anything to you. Males are not affraid of commitment, they aren't ready to settle down.
I think it's interesting that in the conversation so far, the argument seems to be not about whether women are "emotional," but whether calling women "emotional" is a bad thing.
I agree to a certain extent that woman can be emotional but the
way Charles takes this comment a bit overboard. Yes, at times we get attached but we also are lead on to believe that the guy is feeling the same way we are therefor,we get upset when he tells us two months later that he just wanted to have "fun".
When Sherrick said "Males are not afraid of commitment, they aren't ready to settle down." Males should tell the woman first hand that they are not ready for a serious relationship that way, we don't get emotional when things end.
I think it all comes down to how honest males and females are with each other. If they tell each other what they expect or want in a relationship before emotions run high things won't get so complicated.
Charles, I think your article is very stereotypical. All women are not alike, and women are not like men. Women have stronger feelings with casual sex. We don't just go around and have sex with just anyone. We can't have that same mindset that men have with sex. You said in your blog that women should "just get [theirs] and don't worry about what the other person thinks about it". I don't understand why you would go around having sex with random women with taking their feelings into consideration. That is disrespectful and unaccecptable.
I believe that girls are capable of having "one night stands". Yes they can be emotional when they like the guy that they sleep with, but they can also act just like us(men) when ever we just want to have a little fun.
I believe that it is very possible for women to have casual sex. Of course, some women do become emotionally attached, not all women are the same. For that matter, not all men are the same. Stereotypes are easy to make, but there are always exceptions.
I kind of agree with Charles and then I don't. Women can get emotional, but only when they are in love with the guy. It can also get emotional if the guy disrespects the girl. Sex can be very emotional. Women just tend to feel things more than a man does.
Yes, I agree with the fact that woman are very emotinal when it comes to putting in quality time. If they don't get quality time then they would have a problem with it. Especially, with casual sex woman do form some sort of attachment. Once you give someone apart of you feelings ccan began to grow. The fact is that women expect romance. "Woman are built for bonding". However, some men and women are very different and know how to handle their emotionals with it comes to dealing with the opposite sex. How can you say that some times women don't know how to keep a man and say that the only thing bonding them is sex? Just because they are having sex doesn't mean that feelings are not invovle. It just means that some people can hide their better than others.
Yes, I agree with the fact that women are very emotional when it comes to putting in quality time. If they don't get quality time then they would have a problem with it. Especially, with casual sex woman do form some sort of attachment. Once you give someone apart of you feelings can began to grow. The fact is that women expect romance. "Women are built for bonding". However, some men and women are very different and know how to handle their emotionals with it comes to dealing with the opposite sex. How can you say that some times women don't know how to keep a man and say that the only thing bonding them is sex? Just because they are having sex doesn't mean that feelings are not invovle. It just means that some people can hide their better than others.
Charles, you said “why can't women just think about sex like some men do,” it’s because women are more emotional than men. You can’t blame a woman for some natural feelings. That comment sound a little sexist. It sounds like women are the only ones who actually feel and that men could care less. You may not directly be saying this, but that’s what I see from my perspective. I agree that women can be emotional, but maybe it’s the men who are too carefree.
This is a great converstaion, folks. I'd like to point out one assumption, though, that a lot of people seem to be making: that men can have sex casually and that's a good thing.
I'm not sure it's fair to make that assumption about all men (isn't that just as much a stereotype?).
Likewise, the idea that women who are "emotional" are in some way disadvantaged seems a bit sexist. To say, "if only women could be like men..." asssumes that whatever men are doing is automatically the way things ought to be. And I'm not sure that's true.
I believe that sex is more acceptable for a male because they dont have to worry about becoming pregnant so we can go out and do whatever we please basically. Women on the other hand are made up differently physically, emotionally, and chemically so obviously they are going to have different veiws.
I dont agree with you Charles, The reason why women don't just go out and have rampant sex like a majority of males is because females dont have high levels of testosterone and that is one of the chemicals that cause sex drive. Women are not wired to have sex with no care. Women base a lot of their reactions and feelings on emotions. Sex was not put for us to have with anyone we wanted at anytime. Sex is sacred. It is the closest that two people can come on an emotional and physical level. Saying the things you said is the reason why aids and STD's are spreading like wildfire. If people don't value their ONE life they have here on earth more power to them. They can go and sleep with anyone they want and catch everything you can possibly get. It's their funeral not mine.
I disagree with what you say charles, I don't believe that any casual sex possible. Everything about sex is serious. Pregnancy is a serious commitment. STD's are certainly serious. Women's lives, emotinally and physically, are very complicated things and can not be labeled by words like emotional.
I know plenty of guys who have emotions bottled up inside them so tightly that they explode about anything and everything that infringes on them. If they would just let it out and talk about it to someone and leave their pride out of it, they would be so much happier and would have a sense of stability.
Unfortunately stereotypes make some people feel safe and they live in them and for them. Despite this fact, they are wrong and casual sex does not exist. If you can casually raise a child and casually medicate yourself for AIDS, then go to town. As for those who want to live a different life, they will keep sex where it belongs, as a sacred and wonderful thing.
I think it's obvious that women are different than men. Since God made women to be a companion for men it's natural that women would be different. The differences between men and women compliment each other.
However, I do agree that we women are emotional (and so are some men). We shouldn't be offended when men say that women are emotional.
Ok for the ladies who argue that they arn't emotional. You are looking at it as if I told you that all single women are emotinal. I mean women in general.
I have a fiancee and we have been together for 2 1/2 years and shes still emotional, so what would you call that?
I mean if you ladies weren't emotional than you wouldn't took this offensive. I'm just saying that women choose who they wanna lay wit based on how they feel about that person(emotion) wheather he's hot or he makes you feel good.
Charles, in some way I feel you and in others I don't. Yes we as women can be emotional but look at how we are stereotyped. Society thinks that women are supposed to be sweet, nuturing woman, that is very defenseless. Little does soceity know that there are women who are strong-willed and dominating. We can't help that some men do not show their emotions as willfully as women do but you have to understand that a woman giving a piece of her to another man is a spiritual and a dare-devil thing. A some women are not going to give their bodies to you unless you hold that special connection. When it comes to sex men and women share the same emotional traits. The only thing is that men don't show that and a women do. Stop and think for a second...put yourself in a WOMAN'S pair of shoes.
I think Charles women may be wired different than men and have very different emotions, but there are women out there that are just as worse as men. Even on T.V. now days women are portrayed as being worse than the men when it comes to sex
Charles I can see where you are coming from also when you say we can't put all the blame on men, but most of the time it is the men fault. Because some men believe that sex is the only way to keep a relationship going.But to say women are too emotional is way out of line, you can't blame a women for wanting more than sex from her partner,because behind sex there suppose to be sometime of emotion to make it work.
I agree with you Rebekah that men have an effect on women. Women should not be called emotional because most women want more with the guy than just casual sex. I agree that we have deeper feelings for a guy and it's not easy for us to have casual sex and not want more than it is for a guy to go do it and forget about the girl the next day.
I strongly agree with u charles, women often have the tendency to think they can compete with men when it comes down to sex, but they cant cause they'll get call whores and sluts. Also i agree when u say that women get emotional when the right guy comes along put the thing on them right, they seem to get very emotional and attached.
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